I am looking on at this story with Tyrese and it is so amazing that society has gotten so comfortable now with this kind of dispute. It is routine that a father would go through a certain range of allegations and have to prove himself to his community before the substantive issue is dealt with. This leads me though to the scenario where the people are still together and somehow it is accepted that the father role is subordinate to the mother role. This is particularly damaging in cases where there is only one child and the parents are subconsciously fighting to have that child choose one over the other or love one more. Long before the conflict starts, the contest starts. It almost creates a self fulfilling prophecy that leads to the conflict.

Men get it, you are attached to the child that grew in you, you are an emotional creature but this is not your child alone. Where is the mature adjustment that provides balance, who is responsible for bringing that. This scenario has gone on for far too long and there is no hope for families if inexperience and selfishness keeps tearing families apart and women don’t take responsibilities for pushing men out of their children’s lives.

I guess someone will do a study and prove that this is not a thing, and while we adjust figures the kids of the world continue to face their reality. All they usually want is for mommy and daddy to get alone. Which is difficult because of a world of issues that ‘adults’ now have to navigate, but why waste time on the artificial crap, like who loves the child more and of course who the child loves more. Just be grateful that you have a child capable of love, that is healthy enough to demonstrate that love.

We continue to struggle as a civilization. Where are our adults………

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